איך מתחילים סשן?

Vampiress V​(אג׳נדר שולטת) • 14 בפבר׳ 2026

There's great answers here, and there's as many answers as kinksters.

I would like to introduce an extra level: who are you playing with (as in what's your relationship), and in which context.

For me, I usually only play in 2 specific situations:

1) someone I'm in a romantic, committed
relationship with, at my own place
2) with friends at small play parties

For case 1, we usually develop rituals over time. For example, getting dressed for play, and then I make them kneel so I can put on their collar. For me, that helps with the transition between every day couple life into the play headspace.
I'm also in the habit of setting the mood with appropriate light, music, candles, etc. And for me personally, beyond getting dressed up, preparing my "work station" and my tools.

For case 2 it's completely different. It's more of a vibes of the moment thing. So far I haven't done it more than a few times, but I usually have a negotiation talk beforehand, even if brief, for all to share relevant limits/boundaries, communicating personal goals, moods and headspaces for the day, and time limits + aftercare needs. Then we chill at the party and when the mood strikes, we move into play without much ceremony beyond picking a spot and setting up all tools.