ארכיטיפי BDSM - מבחן אינטרנטי

אהלן
לאחרונה נתקלתי במבחן אינטרנטי של בלוגרית בשם Aella, שוואלה אני מופתע ששמה לא נזכר כאן בפורום יותר. היא עושה כל מיני מחקרים וסקרים על ענייני קינק, יש לה איזה סקר ש-200 אלף איש ענו מה שמאפשר להפיק נתונים שאין בכל מחקר אקדמי. הקיצר יש לה שאלון אינטרנטי נחמד, על ארכיטיפים של BDSM, דהיינו הגדרות שלא מתמקדות בפרטים קונקרטיים, אלא ב-"דינמיקות", ב-"טון, שיטה, נראטיב". הקיצור זה תכלס המבחן הכי טוב שמצאתי לתיאור נטייה קינקית, אז חשבתי יהיה נחמד לשתף את זה עם חברי הפורום פה; אולי אפילו יצאו ככה כמה זיווגים מי יודע.

⠀הסקר נמצא כאן: https://www.guidedtrack.com/programs/956secf/run
וכאן יש כל מיני נתונים מעניינים בנושא, וכן הגדרות: https://aella.substack.com/p/bdsm-subtypes-and-their-prevalence

זו התוצאה שלי:
You're in the:
94th Dark Mindfuck percentile
98th Sexy Mindfuck percentile
81th Eager Submissive percentile
77th Lifestyle percentile
99th Noncon percentile
23th Forced Pleasure percentile
67th Sexy Humiliation percentile
94th Dark Humiliation percentile
99th Sadism/Masochism percentile
8th Tender Protector percentile
4th Indulgent Dom percentile
77th Shared percentile
97.5 Bondage percentile
12 Primal percentile
77 Callous percentile
7 Initiatory percentile

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ואלה התיאורים:⠀
Dark Mindfuck: Dynamics around psychological torture, blackmail, mindfuckery, etc. In this dynamic, the sub is typically having a bad time, with feelings of terror, fear, coercion, or hate.
Sexy Mindfuck: Dynamics around psychological mindfucks for the purpose of sexual control - brainwashing into sex slaves, hypnotized into orgasming on command, etc.
Eager Submission: The sub as a willing participant; desires to submit, is grateful for submission, voluntarily obeys commands, typically noncoercive.
Lifestyle: BDSM as a lifestyle - can involve contracts, rules, permanent brandings or accessories to mark ownership. Often some level of ritual and formality involved.
Noncon: The sub is not a willing participant. Despair, violent coercion, regret, struggle, brutality.
Forced Pleasure: As it seems - this dynamic focuses on pleasure being forced onto the sub, who either doesn't want it to happen, or secretly wants it to happen and ends up giving in.
Sexy Humiliation: The sub is a sexy slut and won't admit it, so we've got to embarrass them into it. This dynamic involves the sub being forced into admitting sluttiness, humiliated for being a whore, taunted for being aroused, etc.
Dark Humiliation: A dynamic of deep degredation. Can involve insults, trash, or watching a dom have sex with others, this dynamic centers around the sub being shown just what a worthless loser they are.
Sadism/Masochism: Pain is worship. This dynamic is straightforward - the dom hurts the sub, and the sub both hates and loves it. The pain is meaningful to the sub, and arousing for the dom to induce.
Sweet Protector: The disney romance dynamic of a loving, protecting relationship. Safety is paramount, the dom guards their sub from outside threats, and the vibe is romantic, perhaps sacred.
Indulgent Dom: Hey, who's dominating who here? This dynamic features an opinionated, perhaps demanding, sub, and a catering, worshipful, indulgent dom.
Shared: The sub is an object, to be shared as the dom sees fit. This dynamic might include slave auctions, gangbangs, gloryholes, and other people's sexual access to the sub being controlled by the dom.
Bondage: As it seems - a dynamic centered around bondage, restriction, sensory deprevation, typically with cooperative flavors.
Primal: A primal, animalistic dynamic; the dom hunts the sub. Wildness, impulsiveness, growling.
Callous: Dom is disconnected, uncaring, not paying attention. Dom is selfish, engages in sex even if the sub isn't ready, uses sub like an object. Unfeeling, serial-killer vibes.
Initiatory: A dynamic fueled by the sub's sex drive. Sub is horny, wants sex, wants sex now, to the degree that the dom can use the sub's desire for sex as a method of controlling the sub. This dynamic is affectionate and warm, and the differentiation between roles tends to be more fluid.
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I loved this test!
Super interesting to define what type of dynamics we're into.
Some questions sounded icky to me, I think they could be worded better to make it clear the scenario looks non-con, but it's consensual.

Here are my results:
Your bdsm valence score is 84th percentile sweet, compared to others.

Higher valence scores mean you prefer dynamics that other people rated as sweet, lighthearted, wholesome, or nice.

Lower valence scores mean you prefer dynamics that other people rated as dark, mean, ominous, or heavy.

(Totally true, I prefer whimsical, funny and sweet over dark and serious every day)

You're in the:
28th Dark Mindfuck percentile
29th Sexy Mindfuck percentile
84th Eager Submissive percentile
66th Lifestyle percentile
74th Noncon percentile
75th Forced Pleasure percentile
56th Sexy Humiliation percentile
72th Dark Humiliation percentile
88th Sadism/Masochism percentile
98.8th Tender Protector percentile
91th Indulgent Dom percentile
38th Shared percentile
84 Bondage percentile
97 Primal percentile
12 Callous percentile
62 Initiatory percentile

So my archetype is Protective Chase, because Tender Protector is my #1 and primal #2. Curious to see I'm considered high on being indulgent and wanting an eager sub, for me both of us getting our rocks off and being into it is a requirement. So I'm guessing it's not wrong, but the wording on some questions did not sound consensual to me, so I'm guessing that influenced my replies.

But it got me thinking about a comment I got here about how tenderly I approach my BDSM. I guess it's true, I'm a romantic with a whip, or according to this test, the male protagonist of a romantasy novel 😂

כמתחלף דווקא פחות התחברתי. זה מאוד לא סימטרי, ובמרבית השאלות מאוד משנה האם אני מדמיין את עצמי כסאב או כדום. סקר שמתעלם מחוסר הסימטריה הזאת, בעיני, הוא אינהרנטית חסר משמעות.

You're in the:
* 99.9th Dark Mindfuck percentile
* 93th Sexy Mindfuck percentile
* 93th Eager Submissive percentile
* 96th Lifestyle percentile
* 95th Noncon percentile
* 98th Forced Pleasure percentile
* 98th Sexy Humiliation percentile
* 99.9th Dark Humiliation percentile
* 99.9th Sadism/Masochism percentile
* 24th Tender Protector percentile
* 8th Indulgent Dom percentile
* 98.1th Shared percentile
* 97.5 Bondage percentile
* 98 Primal percentile
* 89 Callous percentile
* 58 Initiatory percentile

Your BDSM archetype is Sadistic Demeaning

Descriptions
* Dark Mindfuck: Dynamics around psychological torture, blackmail, mindfuckery, etc. In this dynamic, the sub is typically having a bad time, with feelings of terror, fear, coercion, or hate.
* Sexy Mindfuck: Dynamics around psychological mindfucks for the purpose of sexual control - brainwashing into sex slaves, hypnotized into orgasming on command, etc.
* Eager Submission: The sub as a willing participant; desires to submit, is grateful for submission, voluntarily obeys commands, typically noncoercive.
* Lifestyle: BDSM as a lifestyle - can involve contracts, rules, permanent brandings or accessories to mark ownership. Often some level of ritual and formality involved.
* Noncon: The sub is not a willing participant. Despair, violent coercion, regret, struggle, brutality.
* Forced Pleasure: As it seems - this dynamic focuses on pleasure being forced onto the sub, who either doesn't want it to happen, or secretly wants it to happen and ends up giving in.
* Sexy Humiliation: The sub is a sexy slut and won't admit it, so we've got to embarrass them into it. This dynamic involves the sub being forced into admitting sluttiness, humiliated for being a whore, taunted for being aroused, etc.
* Dark Humiliation: A dynamic of deep degredation. Can involve insults, trash, or watching a dom have sex with others, this dynamic centers around the sub being shown just what a worthless loser they are.
* Sadism/Masochism: Pain is worship. This dynamic is straightforward - the dom hurts the sub, and the sub both hates and loves it. The pain is meaningful to the sub, and arousing for the dom to induce.
* Sweet Protector: The disney romance dynamic of a loving, protecting relationship. Safety is paramount, the dom guards their sub from outside threats, and the vibe is romantic, perhaps sacred.
* Indulgent Dom: Hey, who's dominating who here? This dynamic features an opinionated, perhaps demanding, sub, and a catering, worshipful, indulgent dom.
* Shared: The sub is an object, to be shared as the dom sees fit. This dynamic might include slave auctions, gangbangs, gloryholes, and other people's sexual access to the sub being controlled by the dom.
* Bondage: As it seems - a dynamic centered around bondage, restriction, sensory deprevation, typically with cooperative flavors.
* Primal: A primal, animalistic dynamic; the dom hunts the sub. Wildness, impulsiveness, growling.
* Callous: Dom is disconnected, uncaring, not paying attention. Dom is selfish, engages in sex even if the sub isn't ready, uses sub like an object. Unfeeling, serial-killer vibes.
* Initiatory: A dynamic fueled by the sub's sex drive. Sub is horny, wants sex, wants sex now, to the degree that the dom can use the sub's desire for sex as a method of controlling the sub. This dynamic is affectionate and warm, and the differentiation between roles tends to be more fluid.