In the Pink

I appreciate that the servility levels of many people I know -- and even more who I don't know (yet) -- are at heights that I don't even know exist.

Servility is not my thing. There's a reason I self-identify as a sub (well, switch, but the subby part) rather than a slave. I'm not even into any kind of "I've been such a bratty, naughty girl -- I'll just bend over so you can spank me" interaction. (Etc...) No, no, I own my need to be spanked. I cherish that desire within me. Show me a flogger, and I instantly moisten. Wave a paddle in front of me, and my knees weaken. (I'm having a bit of a moment even as I write, to be completely honest.) As the wonderful Big Bad Cat has made it quite clear, punishment for me is NOT being flogged or spanked.

I submit in my own way. There are things that are presumed that being submissive entails that I don't like, mostly when these things are presented as expectations. As in, having a prevailing attitude of "well, you must do/act/be this/that/the other, or else you're not a real sub!"

Oh pur-LEASE.

This post was inspired by a post on Fetlife. The poster in question was a submissive girl, who did lots of things that never sit well with me, but over most of which I take great care not to pass judgment. YKINMK and all that. She refers to herself in the third person (not my cup of tea), fr example. But that's her business. I don't condemn or condone. I merely remark.

It was what she posted about, and the innocence behind it that freaked me out. She asked about fulfilling a fantasy of her Master (to whom she referred as "Master", not "my Master" -- does that speak to anyone else besides me? Discussion in comments...) that sounds utterly devoted and completely submissive as a fantasy, but in reality could pose some complicated and extremely serious health problems.

And I ask myself -- what the fuck? Does no one have an ounce of common sense anymore? It's wonderful that this girl got the seriously good advice she needed on the pages of Fetlife -- but what of her Master? Was he seriously considering performing an act that is so dangerous, on his submissive? And before we all scream "Dangerous Dom" (which may, in fact, be the case) let's take a step back and regard this girl who seems to be so servile as to deny herself any say in anything, and acts only to please her Master -- regardless of the consequences for herself?

Again, what the fuck? (Actually, at this point, I'd really like to say "what the fuckkity fuck??!" Ahem, I digress.) Did she submit her brain when she submitted her ass? I am not knocking M/s in any shape or form, but where is the line that we need to draw in the sand. The one labelled "personal responsibility"? Hmm?

The Goreans -- a BDSM sub-culture with which I do not identify, but I do respect -- are very clear on the fact that a slave is not a doormat. Bearing in mind the level of servility incorporated in following Gorean culture, I think that speaks volumes.