לפני 12 שנים. 1 באפריל 2012 בשעה 20:50
It's a question you hear often, particularly in the scene.
"So, what are you then?"
I'm always tempted to pointedly stare down at my abundant chest, cough politely and raise an eyebrow -- but I rarely do. So few people share the daftness of my sense of humour, and the majority of those who don't get why it's funny seem to take themselves far too seriously.
Is there a correlation? You decide.
The truth is, I often answer in a way that kind of betrays my principles. Am I kinky? Hell, yeah. Am I a twue sub? Um... apparently not. (I mean, I'm twue enough for the BBC, but god bless him, that's part of why I adore him so much.) Is BDSM a big part of me? Sure. Is it the be-all and end-all? Er… no.
We forget, I think, that BDSM is an amalgam of six different elements: bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. One B, two Ds, two Ss and an M. It’s blindingly obvious that no one person will embody everything about it, or “tick all the right boxes”. For one thing, there is no definitive list of boxes to be ticked in the first place.
It’s just worth remembering – meeting someone who says that they’re into BDSM is one thing. Making assumptions based on this fact is another. And I hardly need remind you – never assume, people – never assume.
It just makes an ASS out of U and ME.
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