It's weird. I’m not the writing type. I read a lot. I stay in the shadows. I don't post things on the social media. You could almost call me an introvert.
It's weird that my first blog entry would be here, at the cage, but here it is.
The Journey
We, me and my wife, were talking for ages about the forced monogamy working poorly for the human kind. It’s pretty evident when you look at all the side quests that married people embark on, just to get back a little excitement into their life.
Then, not that long ago, we decided to open our relationship and allow each other to have fun.
It sounds simple, but it’s not. It rises, all at once, so many trust and self confidence and couples dynamics issues that I could write a whole post about it. For now, let me just say that it’s the best thing that happened to us in the past decade. It brought lots of thinking and talking and self exploration. It also made our sex life much more playful and kinky.
One day, on one of the dating sites, I was exposed to some D/s play going on. There was a girl, she was looking for 24 men to fuck her. It was a present/assignment by her Master on her 24th birthday.
The chat with her touched something very deep in me. Something that was there the whole time, but forgotten and suppressed. Next I red, the “Master Nage's Guide to Training Consensual Slaves” book. It’s not a good fit for a beginner, but it shows the depth and complexity of the D/s world.
Living in Israel and speaking Hebrew (I do prefer to write in English) I found myself at the cage.
Am I a Dom?
I am an Alpha person, but frankly, I don’t know. Our current mental state and behaviour is part us, part education and society. I'm pretty sure that urges awaken in me by that girl are not part of my education 😉 However, society has so much to say about how to behave yourself with women, and surely it effects me as well.
Reflecting on the sources of my motivation and changing the behavior is not new to me. However, in the vanilla world, these topics are so basic and unchallenged that I never did.
And so, it’s time to dig in and explore…
What’s next?
I am a honest and decent man (this _is_ part of my core personality). I would not try to sell myself as an experienced Dom to score some playtime and experience.
I do hope that I will meet some people at the cage, that would help me with the exploration.
Ideally, a mentor, but that sounds a bit like a fantasy to me. We’ll see what happens next.
