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לפני 7 שנים. 7 ביולי 2016 בשעה 23:35
 
 
GOLDEN RULES & PENALTIES
 
I keep a punishment book. Inside the rear cover I maintain a list of golden rules that Robert is expected to commit to memory and comply with during punishment sessions. The rules are modified from time to time, as I see fit, so he is expected to check the list regularly. I may ask him to recite the rules from memory at any time and he will receive a minimum penalty punishment of six of the best if he is not word perfect. Rules are rigidly enforced and failure to comply with any of the rules carries a mandatory punishment, which can range from a single hard penalty stroke of the cane or tawse for a very minor infringement, to a very severe thrashing with no upper limit of penalty strokes for more serious infringements. However, I rarely add just one penalty stroke, more likely it will be six of the best or the repeating of a punishment. Penalty strokes can be administered immediately or saved up to be administered at the end of a punishment session, as I see fit. It is not unusual for Robert to break several of my rules in the course of punishment, in which case there may be a list of penalty points to be dealt with. I will usually add all the penalties together then administer them all as a final penalty caning or tawsing. It is not unusual for Robert to incur further penalties during the administration of a final penalty caning, in which case I will normally add even more strokes at the end.

Sometimes, if Robert continues to make a fuss or misbehave while I am administering penalty strokes, I will set him a further challenge. I will tell him that I am not still not happy with the way he is taking his punishment, and that further punishment will be administered when I have had time to consider what he deserves. Then I leave him to reflect, still strapped over the whipping bench, while I take a tea break. On my return I might say something like:

“You are to receive an additional twelve strokes of the cane. They will be as hard as I can make them and there will be no pauses. You will take them in complete silence, if not I will repeat them, and I will continue to repeat them until you do take them in silence. Do you understand, Robert?”

That usually does the trick. He knows I don't make idle threats. He told me that he held his breath for the entire twelve strokes last time I did this, to stop himself crying out. I may apply the strokes a bit slower and perhaps increase the number next time – that should foil that devious little trick. The current list of golden rules is as follows:

1. Never disagree, question or argue with Mistress.

2. Always accept Mistress's decisions and punishment with enthusiasm and without the hint of complaint.

3. Remain silent while being punished and don't make a fuss.

4. Never speak unless asked a question, then answer without expanding on it.

5. Comply with any instruction immediately and without question.

6. Begging for mercy, asking for leniency or pauses is strictly forbidden in any form. This is regarded as a serious offence and will result in harsh penalties.

7. Mistress is ALWAYS right.

 

 

אה וגם היא ממש טובה 

 


So what about control?  

Whilst I appreciate we all approach CP differently, it is my opinion that many people fail to get everything they should from CP purely because they don't bother to learn and are therefore missing out on huge benefits.  This goes for people at both ends of the cane and is a huge part of why I hold so very few Disciplinarians in high regard - most never bother to learn, particularly to so-called professionals - and it also applies equally to lifestylers and to professionals. 

Yes, we can all have fun spanking or being spanked on a very ... level.  It can be kinky foreplay; it can be a w**k fantasy - it is fun. 

However, there is far more to CP than that and to ignore or dismiss this is selling it - and us - far short; not to mention you could be missing out on so very much.

As you will have seen from the reviews written by some Sanctum members, CP and Discipline have the ability to not only enhance one's life but also to fundamentally change it.   When you play with a Disciplinarian who knows what they are about and who is prepared to put all of themselves into ensuring you get everything you need, it is an amazing experience.   

And what is the basic requirement for this sort of experience?  That you be prepared to relinquish control completely; that you place yourself in the Disciplinarian's hands and allow them to guide you and give you what you need. 

The first step to giving up control?  Trust.  Yes, I know there are those among you who will be thinking they would never be so stupid as to completely trust another person and hand over control to them.  Well, how sad is that? I appreciate it is a leap of faith for many, but it is essential if you are to have the sort of transcending experience that so many who do take this step achieve. 

I am not expecting anyone to blindly trust - it is something that has to be earned, the same as respect, and it takes time ... although I often receive emails telling me people feel they can trust me implicitly without having actually met me due to the effort I put into communicating in the Sanctum and online, as well as privately and personally.

So how do you know you can trust your Disciplinarian?  Firstly by ensuring they actually are a Disciplinarian.  There are very few Disciplinarians I recommend these days, mainly because there are very few who have been around long enough to have 'served their time'; who have taken the taken the time to learn or who can at least demonstrate that they 'get it'.  You need to bear in mind that whilst many title themselves as 'Disciplinarians' and whilst many can give a pretty good walloping, very few are capable of doing more than that, simply because they either haven't bothered to learn or they lack the ability to comprehend the deeper needs.  For very many, CP - like BDSM - is just an easy way to make money.  They don't consider the client as an individual and they don't provide everything they should. 

This is fine for those who just want a thrashing and fortunately there are many 'service tops' (those who cannot/do not take control and who do precisely what the client wants) and I am grateful for them as I never have to waste my time and efforts on these people.  Bear in mind there are also many who will profess to fully comprehend but think on it - are you actually relinquishing control?  Are they taking control?  Are you really getting everything you can from a session?

But for those who want a true CP/Discipline experience, be extremely selective and choose a 'real' Disciplinarian.  Got a bit sidetracked there, sorry!

Now you will have noticed I have mentioned taking control - not you giving it!   Firstly, let me make this clear - CP/Discipline is a symbiotic transaction - both parties give and both take.  I cannot take what is not offered.  However, if I cannot actually take control from you; of the situation, etc. then I am not worthy of it.  You need to know that your trust and faith is well-placed and my ability to not only take control but to use it safely and in your best interests. 

You will no doubt come across people who bang on about 'the gift of submission' and how the submissive (recipient, etc.) is the more powerful and has ultimate control.  Hmmmm.  Doesn't that actually defeat the whole object?  How you can 'submit' if you retain control?  How could that ever be 'real'?  How can you be disciplined by someone who allows you to call the shots? 

it's a shame, really, as the whole 'gift of submission' thing started off as an acknowledgement of the trust placed in the Dominant by the submissive.  Nowadays, however, thanks to the ignorants who inhabit the internet, come to mean something completely different - that without the submissive 'submitting' the Dominant won't get what they need.  True, but then why don't people spout about the 'gift of their dominance'?  Because the exact same thing is true!  Hence I refer to the exchange as symbiotic. My take on it is ... if I want your submission I will take it and you will give it gladly.  Does that make sense?


 

 
 

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