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"But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night"
Khalil Gibran

It was beautiful to live"
when you lived!
The world is bluer and of the earth
at night, when I sleep
enormous, within your small hands."

Pablo Neruda
לפני 14 שנים. 28 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 14:21


I started writing a really interesting post this morning, and then my computer crashed so despite the fact that I was working in Firefox -- Bloody, that comment was for YOU -- I lost the entire content of the post.

Grrrr.

It was something about how another year is passing, and how years took FOREVER to pass when I was a child, but now go by so fast that it's quite amazing that my head isn't just spinning, but rather permanently revolving, a la Linda Blair.

All I know is that the last year brought me what has to be the most healthy and fulfilling relationship I've ever had. Ever. I'll write more in honour of the actual anniversary, consider this a lead-in.

Someone left me a comment on one of my posts a week or two back, about how this blog is so very pink and happy. Well, call out the fucking national guard. You know what, go one better -- fucking sue me. So I'm happy. So the fuck what? It only took me 40 years -- please god by you.

And anyway -- I like pink.

😜



לפני 14 שנים. 25 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 20:38

Pity me. I am Dying of a Foul Disease.

(Influenza. Coughcoughcough sneezesneezesneeze snifffffffffffff.)

Get well-wishes are welcome in the comments.

Here's a cool tune -- ironic by name, but fabulous in nature.



Of course, the Big Bad Cat prefers GUcXI2BIUOQ

לפני 14 שנים. 24 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 12:49


With many thanks to the wonderful and super special Bloody, who brightened my morning, with this:



לפני 14 שנים. 23 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 19:48


Am I being over-sensitive?

Or would you hate it if someone accused you of trying to claim that the Holocaust was the fault of the Jews?

Yeah, I thought so.

I did something ill-thought-out this week.

I took a post of mine, this one, and put it up on Fetlife in the Rants group. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but I had forgotten that it had originally been written from a very personal point of view, as a result of something specific happening -- for an audience of people who come to my blog to read the nonsense that I specifically write.

The reaction was not what I expected it to be, which will just teach me to re-use a post, lazy pink tabby that I am. Most people reading it did not get it, and commented accordingly. Unlike those who read it here, the majority of whom *did* get it, having been witness to the events that precipitated the piece in the first place.

Now, please understand -- I am not a shy and retiring wallflower. I'm always happy to receive and accept criticism. I believe I can hold my own in discussion, I will acede to points that are correct, despite my fervently wishing that they weren't, and I will passionately defend points of view that I believe to be correct, or that are my own truth. I don't need people to fight my battles for me, and I'm not scared of dealing with things.

Not any more, anyhow.

There are also times when I will not engage with a person, when I feel that to do so will give their pathetic and ridiculous argument legs.

Such a thing happened to me today.

To this second-hand rant, I received a personal comment, sent to me by private messagewhich said that in my sentence "I'm a proud Jew, but karma's a bitch", I was in fact implying that all the blame of the holocaust lay at the feet of the Jewish people.

I was so upset, I immediately blocked the person who wrote to me -- and on Fetlife, that also means deleting the correspondence that has happened up until that moment. I therefore have no proof of what happened -- although god knows I don't need any.

Another of my less fine hours.

My meaning behind that particular sentence had been a play on the fact that karma was a concept of Hindu origin, and that I am a Jew.

I therefore ask the question -- where the fuck does the Holocaust come into it? It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

Am I being too sensitive? How would you feel if that or a similar accusation were levelled at you?

The question is mildly hypothetical. What's done is done. The rant is still up and I'm not even trying to have it pulled, although I freely concede that re-posting the piece there as a rant was not my most intelligent decision.

I just needed to write about it.

Thanks for listening.

לפני 14 שנים. 23 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 8:24


He sent me this, and I laughed so hard i spewed tea out of my nose. Which is funny to write about but less so to experience -- it falls into the category of bad pain, particularly when I am suffering from any number of unwanted and unpleasant viruses (or virii for those among you who give a Latin flying fuck) that have invaded my body, via the phone, from friends who have unintentionally infected me.

Ugh.

Anyway -- this is very funny. Enjoy.

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לפני 14 שנים. 21 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 11:25


Silence is golden.

Duct tape is silver.

😄

לפני 14 שנים. 20 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 14:02


I am who I am. Not only this, but I am proud of who and what I am. I can look myself in the mirror without flinching, which is pretty much the backbone of the moral code by which I live. I can, will, have and am always prepared to take the consequences for my actions.

This is me, for those of you who don't know.

I act according to my own personal creed, which closely resembles that of one R. Hillel -- who, when asked by a mocking bystander to parse the Torah while standing on one leg, said "Do unto others as you would have done unto you -- and the rest is commentary."

Commentary, shmommentary. Do unto others as you would have done unto you -- it doesn't get more basic, more mature or more logical than that.

I find it abhorrent that people of above a certain age, who like to call themselves adults, and avail themselves of the privileges available to adults, behave like spoiled, nasty children. In fact, beyond abhorrent, I find it enormously difficult to comprehend that such immaturity rages rampant throughout a community such as ours, which requires a level of emotional maturity to even be able to enjoy all the forbidden fruit on offer.

I would like, therefore, to list the basic rules of behaviour that I see as befitting for men and women of the collective age and tendency in this community. Consider this a heavily weighted suggestion, (much like lane allocation on Israeli roads), and in no way directed at you, gentle reader. However, do feel free to pass these *suggestions* on to anyone who fits the bill -- we all know people at whose doorstep these can lie quite happily.

(And no, I do not target these at any one person specifically -- I tend to rise above the personal and pathetic, refusing to give their false claims and strangled yelps any credence by paying them any attention.)

1. Judge not lest ye be judged.
Unless you know the specific situation at hand, who the fuck do you think you are to raise a comment? A question, a query, a concern -- sure. But to pass sentence without a full assessment of the facts? Shame on you.

Your actions indicate that you would place yourself above others, while in reality this is as much of an illusion as the magic of Hollywood. It is not your business to know the facts, and yet you would judge without them, despite it being made abundantly clear that you are unwelcome to do so.

Clearly you have a very different moral code to the majority of us, proving that different is not always good.

2. Dr -- Heal thyself
Cry me a river if you have no life. Maybe if you ceased to interfere and meddle and poke your unwanted nose into other peoples' affairs, your time and positive energy levels would free up, and you might find something more productive with which to occupy your time. You know, like getting consensually beaten and flogged. The fun side of life. Use the lemons that life gave you to make lemonade, instead of becoming so bitter and twisted.

You'll thank me, you know.

3. Respect The Kink That Is Not Yours
I can't really think of a non-self-explanatory paragraph. How difficult is it to show mutual respect? Remember, respect begets respect, and disrespect -- for no justifiable reason -- will only come back to bite you in the arse.

I've seen it happen many a time. I'm a proud Jew, but karma is a bitch.

4. Silence is golden.
It is better to remain silent and be thought of a fool, than to open your mouth and prove it. 'Nuff said.

Don't you think?

By the way, gentle reader, do feel free to add to the Rules in the comments, or by private message. Whether you agree or disagree -- I welcome your comments.

לפני 14 שנים. 18 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 17:01



Click here for me?

I chose a really pretty basque (מחוך) and I really. Really. Want. It.

Please?

לפני 14 שנים. 18 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 10:02

כמעת כל בוקר יום שישי, שיוצא לשבת מול המחשב, בא לי לשים הודעה בבלוג עם איזה קליפ נחמד או מצחיק, או שיר ענק.

וזה רק כדי לפרגן -- אתם יודעים. בשבילכם, הש??ו?ה ע?ר?ך? הבלוגי (המבולג?) של כורסה וחמום, וכוס שוקו חם עם מרשמלו... אתם ידעים מה אני מתכוונת? סלון שישי של לילי, רגע של אווירה חמה ומפנקת -- כי מגיע לכם.


Plus, I actually like posting these videos... Heh. Sue me.

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שבת שלום ונר שמיני שמיייייח!

נשיקות,
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לפני 14 שנים. 17 בדצמבר 2009 בשעה 9:07


After the collaring ceremony, comes -- if you are in a relationship with an avid photographer, as I am -- the pictures.

For reasons of highly complicated and circumstantial levels, this happened exactly a week after the ceremony itself.



This is my collar, isn't it beautiful? As I wrote on my Fetlife profile, it's in my two favourite colours -- black, and "Ooo! Sparkly!".

Congratulation, adulation, adoration and felicitation welcome in the comments. Show me the lurve, people.