In the Pink

Getting into the whole online experience was an eye-opener for me, but it was so long ago that I am amazed how many people seem to make the most elementary of errors, with regard to their own personal safety.

This worries me not a little.

I have a friend, who has a friend, who is just starting out in the scene, back over the pond in the US of A. My friend is an aware and understanding vanilla who used to be in the lifestyle -- in fact, were she capable of reading and writing Hebrew, she'd join this site and specify that she was "lo ba'esek". Her friend -- the newbie to BDSM -- is an older woman, divorced and starting over, and my friend asked me to offer her some basic advice, which I did, and now it's become a kind of Agony Auntie situation -- and each time I beat myself up for not mentioning some of these things earlier...

(Sorry, NEMRF, I know you made me promise to leave beating myself up to those who enjoy it. 😃

I'm still working out the details of what exactly happened, but it seems that some unscrupulous bastard was "asked" to "share" pictures that she had sent him, on a "dom" site/list. And he seemed impervious to any violation of personal space that this created. To make matters worse, these were pictures he'd taken of her during a cam session.

My actual response, which is unfortunately lacking here in the original screaming incredulity since this is not a podcast, was "what the FUCK?!"

I'm finding out the details now, I hope to god that the pictures showed no face and had no relevant metadata.

It just goes to show, one can never assume, it always makes an "ass out of u and me" -- and I feel as though, this time, I really dropped the ball.

Oy.