לפני 13 שנים. 24 בספטמבר 2011 בשעה 7:42
In my previous post, I made mention of the old adage "never ASSUME because it makes an ASS out of U and ME".
It occurs to me that this phrase, in and of itself, is worthy of a post all to itself. It's way beyond a phrase, it's a serious issue that can result in foolish behaviour and dangerous consequences.
What do I mean? I'll tell you. (Patience is a virtue, friend -- breathe easy.)
Despite my relative reluctance to write in Hebrew, I do speak and read and understand the language fluently. I read quite a lot of Hebrew -- much more since I entered the scene locally -- and it troubles me that there is a tendency to write with assumptions of "what a sub is", "how a sub should behave" (a topic that sets my teeth on edge by just mentioning it here) and "what should happen in a session".
Seriously?
Write to me of "I did this." Write to me of "I tried this and it felt great!" Write to me of "I'm no expert, but I feel that this is the best way for me. " Suggest. Imply. Describe. Fantasize. But do not -- DO NOT -- tell me what the fuck I should do or how i should do it.
Take responsibility for how you act, but don't you dare presume to tell me.
Only one person gets to do that.**
** And even then it's within a framework of our own conjoint decision-making.