I'm trying to analyze what is it about public play that appeals to me.
The first thing that came to mind is: I'm not a dirty little secret, and neither are the things I like to do romantically.
The same way I enjoy watching people flirt in movies, or on the street, at a cafe, or a bar, or wherever. It brings me joy to see the joy, the butterflies, the love.
I enjoy having my love and/or my fun on display in the same way. I guess you could say I gloat in it, just not in a mean way. When I'm happy, I want the world to know.
I am Jack's sense of pride, as Fight Club would put it.
That's why I like talking about my experiences over and over in the chat, why I enjoy having my pictures on display for all to see (and much more so when I'm not the sole subject in the picture), and playing in public.
Depending on the activity and the place, there's also the taboo element to it all, but that's more likely to serve as a deterrent for me than anything, really.
Sympathy, not schadenfreude.
Love, not discomfort.
