Pain slut reflects on bdsm post Oct 7th
We are all in collective pain and the world is not getting any less painful.
As someone who finds the mix of pain and pleasure my desire to engage in this submissive activity has changed
My need is still there
But
To get me to this place has altered dramatically.
To get me to this place means I need to be seen and heard.
Telling me you are going to beat me without showing any acts of kindness is not listening or thinking. Its abuse.
In order to understand you i have to see your actions. Words are cheap. Actions are priceless.
I find it hard to believe that people do not follow through and act according their own words. I try to see the best in folks but I wonder if I ask too much of people.
Here is a public service announcement.
If you want a sub remember as a dom its your responsibility to make sure she feels safe.
If she does not feel safe you know you did something wrong
If she is not enjoying what you offer..stop.
If you are told to stop this is a chance to make her feel better
If you cant see that you did something wrong you are an abuser and not a dom.