Disclaimer: We generally dont discuss our secondary relationships other than saying where we are.
My husband mentioned that his mistress said I changed my plans to stop him seeing her. If he mentioned that I know it bothered him. I can honestly say I change plans because other things happen.
He knows my plans change because family, work, and life are my priority.
I pushed, cajoled and encouraged my husband to have a secondary relationship.
Why?
Apart from having fun I wanted her to show him affection. I wanted her to make him feel good. I wanted her to love him. Yes this is an open marriage and she knew that from the start.
Does he get love from me?
Yes. But the love I give has been going on in abundance for over 30 years. This love i give is reciprocated. We have ups and downs. Our life is beautiful and chaotic. I mean we live here in this beautiful and chaotic land. Its not exactly easy to date in the current climate.
I do not think the same way as many people. My feelings are compartmentalised. Sex and love can be enjoyed separately. If I fall in love its an experience you wont forget. It takes alot to make me fall in love. If i love you I will tell you. I dont need or want or expect it returned. I love because I want to give. I forget that other people see it in a different way.
I know he likes her. I know he might even love her. Its ok. Its great.
I truth I forgot her feelings.
She has them.
I knew she would want to love him.
Love messes with the mind like all human emotions.
Its messed with hers.
I am sorry.