Disclaimer alert- apologies ahead of time if this may upset anyone. This is not aimed at genuine bdsmers any strain/type or gender or sexual preferences.
This is my own personal summary and observations of my journey through the world of bdsm and kink the past 12 yrs.
This rant touches everyone within the community somewhere or other. And I dont give a flying fuck if some of you don't agree with some of this, or even any of it for that matter!
There's a good chance hardly anyone will read it, since it's written in English. And excuse me for that, but quite honestly.
If you can't read a simply written text in English you really shouldn't be in this lifestyle. Cos this lifestyle is NOT for idiots, (the same way that it's not for children and phsyco's).
Which brings me to my 1st observation-
I have met some really stupid people who did some really stupid things during play, to others and themselves!
And I'm not just talking about physically, like kidney damage from dangerous blows to areas off limits or permanent scars from irresponsible play etc, I'm talking about emotional damage too.
I am shocked at how little people "in the lifestyle" actually know about bdsm. They never researched the subject, know the history of shibari or ever heard of the story of O for example. They don't understand the principle of bdsm, the Ds dynamic, the difference between a slave and a submissive, who is a Top, who is a bottom or what a rigger or rope bunny is.. They don't bother to learn about anatomy and the effects of impact play or the dangers. They don't know about negotiations and considerations or the physiology of endorphins or even what the hell is aftercare!!
There are also thousands of kinks and fetishes and they spill over into the world of bdsm. You might have a rape fetish and that's just fine. It happens to be the biggest fantasy among women. But you should take into consideration that you may never get to live that kind of fantasy. Same goes for medical. Even scat has a place in this world.
Some of these activities might be a hard limits for most and stay just a fantasy for the rest.
Your thing might be getting fucked up the ass by a transvestite pole dancer!
Whatever rows your boat. Whatever tickles your fancy! Anything goes in the world of Fetish!
Just remember one very important rule- Don't try to force anything onto others or manipulate other's just to get what you want!
For example- you cannot go around promising/manipulating a babygirl into a nurturing DaddyDom dynamic if you just have a fetish for fucking 18yr old trailer trash from time to time!
2nd observation -
Since 50 Fucking Shades in 2012 there became an influx of bdsmers worldwide. It came out of the closet and has become mainstream. Since then every Tom, Dick and Harry is suddenly a Master at the age of 30 with 12yrs experience! It became a fucking meat market! A shuk of inferior fruits and vegetables and stinking meat covered in flies!
A far cry from the secret society of intellectuals that kept their activities private, who practiced their art with wisdom and depth and great emphasis on empathy and emotional intelligence.
Truth is that generally a true submissive has a predisposition to be submissive, like Dominants are born leaders etc. This being so makes a submissive a target for abuse by Charlatans and Predator's. And this is what turns this "lifestyle" out of balance- when people who have no idea what bdsm is all about, or even care what it's all about call what they do BDSM, when all they do is take advantage my fellow submissives! I wish to add that although I write specifically about female subs in this post, the male sub deserves the same considerations cos they also suffer exploitation and serious physical damage as a result of charlatan dommes.
A submissive is a generous natured person, who puts their trust in You. She looks to You for guidance. She puts herself under Your care. She feels safe with You. She gives herself completely to You. You have her blessing to do with her as you please, body, mind and soul. She consents to Your every whim because she see's You worthy of that. And You need her to feel complete, cos without a submissive You are nothing more than a half of Yourself.
All she asks in return is You cherish what she offers You and recognises her worth as Your's.
So why have i seen so much disappointment within the female submissive community on my journey? Why have I witnessed so much pain and manipulation, so many lies and abuse towards these beautiful people?
Do You really believe they deserve that kind of treatment? Isn't this on the same lines as kicking someone while they are down or abusing an innocent child, a cripple or a stray dog??
Why do we allow this to happen to our most prized possession?
And that's what brings me to my 3rd observation-
The Predator's and The Charlatans!!
These people are dangerous!! They are Opportunist. They don't care about the rules or SSC's. (they don't even know what they are)! Some don't even know what the b or Ds or the sm is in bdsm. They don't care to know of, or if in fact there are issues or traumas in a person's pasts or consider their reputations. They don't care what your vanilla name is, what's your story or what you want from this world. They take no responsibility, pay no attention to consequences and they definitely have no interest in practicing any form of respect or trust.
This is a meat market to them! They feel they are entitled just because! They behave like children in a candy store and all they are concerned about is getting them some of the action. They have no intentions of nurturing or supporting or educating and caring.
Just bring them new assholes to fuck and if you are lucky they might throw you a bone!!
BUT I SAY- NO MORE!!
I SAY WE NAME YOU!!
I SAY WE SHAME YOU!!
I SAY WE KICK YOU OUT!!
I will not allow this to continue!
My heart breaks every time one of my girlfriends fall victim to these Predators and if we don't put a stop to this our bdsm community will be no more than cesspool of lifeless holes and disgruntled Dominants.
This is not a feminist cry for justice! This is a warning to all of YOU Charlatans!
I will no longer be manipulated to shut up! Or be bullied NOT to speak for fear of shaming. Or told I'm just one of those scorn women who doesn't take any responsibility for her bad choices. Or be told I'm one of 'those women' with ulterior motives and spiteful intentions!
I wasn't born yesterday and Im not stupid! I didn't ask for this and my friends didn't ask for it either!
Our claims are warranted and real!!
If you act like this at the workplace with colleagues, you would be out!
If you behaved like this at school, you probably didn't get on so well!
If you treated friends in this manner, you wouldn't have any!
So why do you think you can with the precious body, mind and soul of a submissive??
What gives you right to do that and why should you keep getting away with exploiting the submissives within MY COMMUNITY??
HAVE SOME INTEGRITY!
We turn to You for Your wisdom, Your strength, Your trust, Your respect and we fall prey to a FRAUD!?!
So don't call yourself-
A friend, A mentor, A protector, A father A master or a even A lover when all you bring has no depth or meaning!
This is SACRILEGE and abusing the sanctification of bdsm as my religion.
I call you people OUT!!
and if you dont go, I will make sure you will be sent away!!
Because I will protect my own defiantly and fight for what's mine brutally!
WE KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
SOON EVERYONE WILL KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
SO Get out of my fucking playground!!!!
Rant over!!